Improve OpenXR loader error messages
When the OpenXR loader library fails to load, provide a detailed error
message explaining:
- On Windows: need openxr_loader.dll in app directory or PATH
- On Linux: install libopenxr-loader package or set LD_LIBRARY_PATH
- Can use SDL_HINT_OPENXR_LIBRARY hint to specify path
Also update D3D12 backend to include the error in its warning log,
and remove redundant SDL_SetError in Vulkan backend that was
overwriting the detailed message.